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Maybe you know exactly what's brought you here. Or maybe all you know is that something isn't working anymore.

It could be a family relationship that's broken down, a voice in your head that tells you you're not good enough, a pattern in your relationships that keeps repeating no matter how hard you try. The ways you've been coping might be starting to cost you more than they help. Or it could be harder to put into words: a sense that you've been living someone else's version of your life for so long, you're not quite sure who you are underneath it.

I regularly support people from all walks of life who are navigating family estrangement, identity and belonging, difficult relationships, low self-esteem, and grief and loss — as well as trauma, shame, and the lasting effects of difficult childhoods. Much of what brings people to therapy traces back to the same thing: a self that got shaped around other people's needs, expectations, or fears, rather than their own.

Sometimes we turn to therapy for answers, looking to be told how to think, what to do, how to be.

My role isn't to tell you who to be, how to think or how to feel. My role is to support you in finding that out for yourself, exploring and letting go of judgements and conditioned beliefs, feeling the difficult feelings so you can deal with them, move forward and thrive — and to meet who you find with acceptance and curiosity, rather than the harsh inner voice that probably brought you here.

If any of this resonates, get in touch.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better.”

— Maya Angelou